A picture of a cute kitten often gets an audience hooked in….but why have I used one here?……read on.
You do what you do and do it well, right?
The new things you are learning to do you don’t do so well just now…well because you are learning.
If you talk about the things you are learning to do, my guess is you do this apologetically. When we are not very certain about what we are doing, trying to find our feet we are often worried about what others might be thinking.
The questions in our mind…the “What if I….”
do it badly
drives us often to stop doing or worse still, not even begin.
Kakorrhaphiophobia is a fear of failure. Probably far more extreme than your own fear since in a clinical sense it is an abnormal and irrational one.
The effects of fear do however drive us to avoid doing new things.
Doing things badly at first
Children have to learn. Falling off the bike for the thousandth time is no bar to another….just one more go…attempt. That attempt may be the defining one.
And do you suppose that a unicyclist did not risk grazed knees or broken ankles to perfect his skill?
A magician’s act which goes wrong will generally still command applause – the act of trying is what gains recognition, support and encouragement and provided the outcome is not catastrophic in terms of loss of life or limb the magician will be back the following night to try again.
Who cares? Really.
And how do you define a “fail”?
True failure is surely not making the effort in the first place.
Looking silly or amateurish
No one is watching you.
This will dent your ego but….very few people are thinking about you or what you do at all.
Even if they happen across what you are doing why would they criticise you for it?
Besides, your skin is tough. You have been here before. Did it penetrate and damage you? No.
Brush the naysayers aside, slush them off with ice cold water and get back to it.
Ridicule and face saving
Catagelophobia (the real reason I used a feline image!) is fear of ridicule in an extreme and debilitating sense.
Being laughed at is not within most peoples list of desired outcomes (unless we are back to the unicyclist analogy) so they avoid the risk of that and feel (if they dare to stray into potentially dark uncharted waters) elements of panic and reluctance nibbling at their psyche.
Why all this theoretical claptrap then?
Well being afraid of failing is natural but fruitless.
When you try and when you succeed those that laughed will be laughing on the other side of their faces.
Try something new just for the sheer bare-faced challenge. Strike out with a bold statement of intention and a dramatic flourish.
Either that or stayed hidden like a petrified kitten.